Are you the type of person that finds yourself only happy when others are happy? Frustrated because your life is always in chaos because of the people around you? Do you have trouble saying “no” to people then find yourself resentful of them? Do you feel that too many people need your help and you don’t have enough hours in the day to take care of them?
If you answered yes to any of the questions above you might want to take a closer look at what might be happening to you. You might be suffering from something called “Co-dependency”. This is a learned behavior passed down from one generation to another. This condition affects your ability to have a healthy and mutually satisfying relationship.
Co-dependency is when a person has a strong desire to control others including their spouse, children, friends, co-workers, etc. A person who has co-dependent tendencies tends to be very compassionate and caring to a fault. They feel they are one of the few people that can truly help others who are hurting. That is why they have a difficult time saying “no” to any requests made of them. They are driven by what others think and expect of them.
Many people struggling with co-dependency believe that if they are good enough or loving enough they can change others. Often times a co-dependent person will be in a relationship with someone who is physically or emotionally abusive.
If you think you are someone that struggles with co-dependent tendencies mentioned here, please call us for a free phone consultation. We will be happy to help you make some healthy changes that will help improve your relationships and quality of life.